Menopause At 44 Years Old

Post menopausal women- please help?

I believe my wife (age 44) is beginning menopause--after 20 years of marrige, this is the toughest time our marriage has ever gone through. I know that I cannot understand what she is going through, but I am trying to be sympathetic. It is also very tough on our 15 year old son. I love her and want to help her. She does not want to discuss it and would probably really lash out at me if she had any idea that I posted such a question. If any women can help me or other husbands who have dealt with this, it would be greatly appreciated. Serious answers only, please.
I WISH I could get her to see a gynecologist---she says it is not menopause and nothing is wrong and she refuses to go,
I realize it is difficult for her. The idea of explaining it to our son is a good idea-thanks.

A different perspective.
in our society, menopause is a sign of aging---not particularly desirable..considering youthful beauty is promoted everywhere. on top of that, hormones are shifting, and sometimes not balanced..which can lead to many different emotions that come, unexpected and sometimes uncomfortable.
if she doesn't want to discuss it, it is probably that she is not comfortable with the tranformation she is beginning to experience.
in some cultures, menopause is celebrated as a time of transitioning into wisdom, freedom from menses (therefore no concern of pregnancy)..a time to be the giver of what you have learned through life to younger women.
the best thing that i believe you can do is continue to love her, honor her, affirm her, and make your self available. discuss this with your son, so he too can see her as a wise, a beautiful woman in a new way.
it is just part of life's journey of finding new ways to love.

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