Menopause At 30 Years

When should we start trying for our second child when I have a family history of early menopause?

Emma is only 6 weeks old at the moment but it took us almost 18 months to conceive her. My fiance and I want another 2 children minimum but with how long it took to conceive Emma I don't think it will happen. It's not like I have years and years to try for our second child as I am 30 but in family there is a long history of women having Premature Menopause. My mother went through the menopause at 36, my grandmother went through it at 34 and one of my aunts went through it at 38.

I'm 32 and want 3 kids. My daughter is now 17 months and we've been trying since she was 10 months old. To be honest I was ready when she was 7 month old but didn't say to my husband. Turns out he was ready then too. We've now been trying for nearly 7 months and I only wish we'd never bothered trying to avoid conceiving after she was born as I feel sometimes that I'd rather have struggled with two very young babies than have the second one come along after my first baby's 2nd BIrthday. I wanted to have the 3 kids before turning 35 but I can't see that happening. Now, every day with our daughter gets better and better. SHe's walking and starting to talk and we really have fun with her. She's got a great sense of humour and loves to laugh. I'm now glad that we'll get to enjoy her a bit more before she becomes a big sister. I'm also thinking that it'll be good to get her potty trained before a new baby comes along.

If I could do things differently, I'd still just not bother avoiding conception and let fate decide. I'm going to do that the next time. I've always been a fatalist and this is making me even more so. I think we'll conceive when the time is right and deal with the hand the we're dealt.

My advice to you is to not think about conceiving but not try to avoid it. If it happens, it happens. Keep breastfeeding though as I think that if you're going to have your second one close to the first then number one needs the closeness of breastfeeding. I know that it lowers your chances of conceiving but you hear of loads of lucky ladies who fall pregnant whilst breastfeeding. Good Luck!

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